To have a soulmate or even several soulmates?

definition of soulmate

I have no certainty, but, according to my experience and hopes, I think that each of us can even several soulmates

The soulmate is not only linked to the romantic relationship, neither romantic, nor marital, nor sexual.

He is a person that we “recognize” as if we had always known him! Can be a close relative, a friend, a peer, an "elder", a young person, a child, etc., someone with whom "the current passes" without the need for words, (we can communicate in a way telepathic), we “get along” almost perfectly, we complement each other,…

If we are lucky enough to share a relationship with “a soulmate”, it’s happiness guaranteed! The loss of one or the other can cause real trauma, even if socially there is no link (filiation, marriage, family, etc.) between these people...

This is my understanding of soulmates!

Above all, you should not believe that this is only reserved for the “love domain”! This is the mistake you should not make, thinking that your “half” must be your “soulmate”.

Well in fact the problem with the soulmate is that we can see at least 3 possible definitions.

First definition of soulmate : he/she would be a person with a “perfect” resemblance to us: same tastes, same personality, same convictions… A sort of spiritual double.

Second definition of soulmate : he/she would be a person with perfect compatibility with us. So not necessarily the same personality as us but the one we need.

Third definition of soulmate: he/she would be the person who would be destined for us regardless of her personality.

In all 3 cases I think it is entirely possible to have a soulmate or even several soulmates depending on the definition you adopt. Now there can always be some, does that mean we will be attracted to her and stay with her?

Let's take the most romantic couples possible, for example Romeo and Juliet. We clearly see that if they represent the idealized couple, “destiny” meant that they could not really be together. Furthermore, we can be “destined” for someone without necessarily seeing perfection in the couple, quite the contrary. Partners killed at the hands of their spouse, for example, we can say that their fate was clearly unlucky.

Likewise, when we are absolutely identical to another person, we may be led to reject the other because they are too similar to us and we can see a mirror of our own faults.

If we look closely in reality only the second definition can still sell a little dream. Now would that be possible to have a soulmate or even several soulmates? Given the number of human beings alive on this planet, I honestly won't be surprised by anything. Well, it goes without saying that they still have to be somewhat contemporary people, but it doesn't seem surreal to me to see here and there a few examples of perfectly compatible individuals.

However, the question raises several questions:

1. What about the couple's evolution over time? Can compatibility remain for years knowing that the environment can affect our personality at any time?
2. Could these people really interest us? If the soulmate indeed fulfills our real needs better than our desires, would an idealist seeking comfort be able to recognize that she perhaps needs an independent "poor" assuming that this is her real need? ? Same if for example a feminist would hypothetically need a good royalist male... I am sure that some people deny themselves happiness simply because of preconceptions of this type (size, wealth, social situation, political conviction...) preventing them to see the soulmate in front of her.
3. Could we recognize this soulmate and be available for her? Even if the person met all the criteria and by (very) happy coincidence, personal desires and real needs merged. Would we have the opportunity and the intelligence to seize this chance?
4. Finally, and this is also a crucial point which is far from being as obvious as that: if a person was perfect for us, would we in return necessarily be perfect for them? Is compatibility necessarily mutual?

All this makes me say that seeking perfection is certainly the best way to end up single, because as I have shown through my questions, the problem is very far from simple.

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