Fights and Love in Relationships – Tensions and Tenderness

Overview: This article explores why do couples fight so often in relationships and how true love overcomes conflict with patience and understanding.

Why do couples fight so much in a relationship? Are they really meant to be together if all they experience are arguments, resentment, avoidance, and unpleasant  emotions?

I don’t think so. Happy and successful relationships are built on open and honest conversations, and fights should be the exception - rare moments that don’t overshadow the peace and love in the family.

Over the years, I’ve learned that maturity and experience help us understand one fundamental thing: conflict, when it becomes routine, slowly destroys real emotional intimacy, trust, and warmth between two people.

🟦 Communication That Saves a Relationship

Communication - especially active listening - is the cornerstone of every healthy, happy, and long-lasting soulmate relationship. It doesn’t just mean talking, but doing it with love, gentleness, and care. It means truly listening, showing genuine interest, and asking, “Tell me more.”

When communication is nurtured over the years, two people become true soulmates. They finish each other’s sentences, understand each other’s thoughts and feelings without words, and become a soul-to-soul communion.

(Sandra, 68 years old, Portland, Oregon) « Let me share a moment from my own life. My partner and I have been together for over 40 years. Even after all these years, it’s the everyday, small gestures that keep our bond strong and meaningful.

Just recently, I was outside tidying up the garden, folding an old tarp I had used to cover the plants. As I was about to put it away, he came out and said, “Oh, I was just about to do that,” and gently took over folding it - something that had been left there for weeks.

It’s these simple acts of kindness and understanding that nurture patience and care in a soulmate relationship, helping it stay alive through the years.

These little moments are what keep a relationship alive, building patience and understanding as well as care for each other. »

🟦 Why do couples fight so often in relationships?

From my own experience and observations spanning over 60 years, I want to share some important reasons:

1️⃣ Differences between two people
Relationships are built between two completely different human beings. No matter how much you have in common, people have different personalities and perspectives. These differences can cause conflict, especially if communication isn’t handled with real emotional intimacy and tact.

2️⃣ Stress and daily fatigue
Sometimes we bring home stress from work or external problems.. If you’ve had a bad day, patience decreases, and you may act less kindly and more irritably towards each other.

3️⃣ The temptation to hurt
When you know each other very well, you know exactly where the other person is sensitive. Sometimes, out of frustration, it’s tempting to hit those points.

4️⃣ The difficulty of living together
Living 24/7 with someone, sharing your body, mind, and soul can be challenging. Marriage or a long-term relationship is the hardest task you will ever undertake.

5️⃣ Lack of patience and cooperation
When there are differences of opinion about raising children, money, or household chores and no cooperation, tensions rise quickly.

6️⃣ Immaturity and selfishness
The need to always be right, selfishness, and lack of emotional maturity can harm relationships.

7️⃣ Low self-esteem
It plays a huge role. Low self-esteem can cause you to attract the wrong partners or stay in toxic relationships that inevitably lead to pain.

🟦 What I have learned

Despite all these challenges, I believe a relationship worth having can overcome fights and misunderstandings if both partners are willing to work on communication, listen to each other, and truly love one another.

It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. Because nothing can replace the warmth and safety that true soulmates offer.

And if I’m honest, after all these years, I’m still learning to be patient, forgive, and love even in difficult moments. Because true love doesn’t mean the absence of fights; it means the strength to overcome them together.

🌸 Finding your soulmate isn’t about chasing someone.

It’s about becoming the version of yourself that naturally attracts the right kind of emotional intimacy. Every heartbreak, every wrong turn, has been preparing you for something deeper.

The truth is, most people don’t fail at love - they just look in the wrong places, or with the wrong mindset. Finding Your Soulmate means shifting your focus and learning where - and how - to connect with someone truly aligned with you.

✨ Ready to stop guessing and start attracting?

Let the Finding Your Soulmate guide walk you through each step of the way.

Strengthen Your Moon, Attract Your Soulmate

emotional space 

Overview: This article explores how your natal lunar position influences your ability to find true and deep devotion

The Moon - Queen of the Night or Mystical Mirror of Light - governs our emotions, memories, and innermost needs. In astrology, your natal lunar position reveals how you feel, how you connect, and how you love. More importantly, the condition of your Queen of the Night can reveal whether you're truly ready to attract, recognize, and hold on to a soulmate connection.

When the Moon is weak or imbalanced in your chart, you may struggle with emotional confusion, inner wounds, or subconscious patterns that push love away. But the beauty of lunar energy is that it can be healed. A nourished Celestial Mirror doesn’t just bring peace - it becomes a magnet for soul-level love.

☁️ Signs of a Weak Moon:

• Worrying over small things
• Lack of mental focus or forgetfulness
• Emotional instability or feeling easily overwhelmed
• Difficulty maintaining a clean, peaceful home
• Struggles in the relationship with the mother or a lack of maternal support
• Disordered eating habits or irregular meal times
• Recurring water issues in the home (symbolically connected to emotions)
• Financial ups and downs, instability
• Pain or disappointment in true and deep devotion

All of these can signal that your inner Mystical Mirror of Light is asking for attention. And when it’s out of balance, your heart may not be open enough to truly connect - even when the right person appears.

🌑 How to Heal the Mystical Mirror of Light and Prepare Your Heart for Love

1️⃣  Clean your physical and emotional space

Your home reflects your mind. Clear your surroundings to clear your thoughts. A clean space is an act of love and alignment with lunar harmony.

2️⃣  Honor your mother or maternal energy

Heal or reconnect with this archetype - even symbolically. Your relationship with your mother deeply affects how you give and receive love.

3️⃣  Eat with rhythm and respect

Eating at consistent times grounds your emotional body. Food is not just fuel - it's also emotional nourishment.

4️⃣ Gentle movement and body care

Yoga, walking, dancing. Especially during the waning Mystical Mirror of Light , these practices help restore your emotional flow.

5️⃣  Fast on Mondays or during the Full Moon

Even a light fast (or water-only) on lunar days can purify emotional clutter and reconnect you with your intuition.

6️⃣  Emotional expression

Journal. Paint. Cry. Sing. Let your emotions move freely. You’re not too much - you’re human. And your soulmate is drawn to your truth, not your perfection.

🔥🌊💨🌱 Messages for Each Celestial Mirror Element

🌊 Water Moons (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces)

You're deeply intuitive and emotionally rich - but easily absorb others’ feelings. Protect your energy. You are not here to emotionally rescue everyone. Get clear on your emotions, and your soulmate will feel that clarity like a signal in the night.

🔥 Fire Moons (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius)

You radiate energy and warmth but often hide behind positivity. You don’t have to be strong all the time. Let yourself feel, ask for help, be vulnerable - it’s through this openness that real love finds you.

💨 Air Moons (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius)

Your mind moves fast - sometimes too fast to feel. You don’t need a reason to feel emotions. It’s okay to cry, to be hurt, to ask for support. Your loved one isn’t looking for perfection - they’re looking for someone real.

🌱 Earth Moons (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn)

You are dependable and grounded, but you often hold yourself to impossible standards. Give yourself permission to rest, to pause, to not be in control. You are lovable even in your messiest moments.

🌙 The Moon Phases and the Soulmate Journey

  🔸New Moon: Set intentions for the love you desire. Write it down. Whisper it to the sky.
  🔸First Quarter: Take inspired action - join a group, say yes to a date, try something new.
  🔸Full Moon: Emotions peak, energy is magnetic - this phase often aligns with soulmate meetings.
  🔸Last Quarter: Release old patterns, break free from past lovers or self-sabotage.

When your inner Mystical Mirror of Light is balanced, your heart becomes attuned to divine timing. You’re no longer searching  -  you’re ready. Your loved one can feel it, even from a distance.

So take care of your Queen of the Night. Nourish her. She is the silent guide that brings love home to you.

Meeting your Mirror Soul can open the door to true, timeless love  -  a connection that transcends lifetimes and awakens your deepest truth.

It’s not just a romantic bond, but a catalyst for growth, healing, and inner transformation.

By clicking this link, your soulmate is drawn  -  captured in a personalized portrait that serves as an inspiring guide to reconnect with your Mirror Soul and illuminate the spiritual path ahead.

The Summer Solstice and the Meeting of the Soulmate

🌞 Every year on June 21st, the Summer Solstice greets us with the longest day of the year - a surge of light, clarity, and cosmic vitality. In astrology, this moment marks the Sun’s entry into Cancer, the sign of the heart, home, and deep emotional connection. But could this solar turning point have anything to do with discovering your kindred spirit?

🔮 The Symbolism of the Solstice and Destined Love

The longest day is more than just an astronomical event. It is a sacred portal - a moment when the veil between worlds grows thinner, and intuition sharpens. In ancient traditions, this day was marked by rituals of fertility, renewal, and karmic encounters. Under the full radiance of the Sun, what was once hidden may now be revealed.

In astrology, Cancer’s energy invites emotional openness and the longing for soul-deep intimacy. Many people feel a deep desire for belonging and heartfelt connection - the perfect inner landscape for a fated encounter to blossom.

❤️ Solstice & Soulmates – A Subtle Connection

Solstice Element	Influence on Love
Maximum Light	Inner clarity: seeing what you want, and who you truly seek.
Cancer Season	Heightened emotional receptivity and sincere vulnerability.
Elevated Solar Energy	Activation of the heart – courage to love again.
Spiritual Gateway	Higher chance of karmic or destined meetings.

🧭 Intuitive & Poetic: When Light Falls on the Soul

The longest day may not literally bring your soulmate, but it might help you recognize them. A miraculous meeting may not take place under the stars - but a quiet revelation might arrive:

• “I’m ready.”
• “This person matters.”
• “What I’ve been seeking is already here.”

It is a sacred time when outer light ignites inner light, and the vibration of love begins to hum louder within us.

✨ How to Invite a Soulmate Connection During the the longest day

• Connect with Nature: Spend time outside, meditate at sunrise or sunset - where sky and earth embrace, answers often emerge.
• Get Clear on What You Want: Reflect on your values and desires. What kind of love are you calling in?
• Open Your Heart: Release doubts and fears. Say yes to opportunities, to meetings, to the unknown.
• Attend Aligned Events: Whether it's a festival, spiritual gathering, or a simple evening with friends - be where life calls you.
• Live in the Frequency of Love: Express joy, gratitude, kindness - authentic love recognizes and is drawn to this energy.

🔁 Synchronicities: The Language of the Universe

Many people report signs, dreams, coincidences or “chance” meetings around the time of the longest day. Some are messages. Others - open doors.

Meeting your soulmate is often accompanied by a magnetic pull, a feeling of recognition, unexplainable synchronicities. The Solstice can amplify this awareness, finding you in a more open, receptive, and authentic state.

🌺 In Conclusion

The longest day is a time of intensity and revelation. If there is a connection between this moment and the meeting of a soulmate, it’s not necessarily physical - but energetic and symbolic. It gives us the chance to become more conscious, more attuned to our hearts, and more able to recognize love when it appears.

Perhaps the soulmate doesn’t come because it’s the solstice -

But it becomes easier to meet them... when you are lit from within.

📌 Written with love for all who believe true love arrives when you're ready to receive it.

The Moon’s Rhythms: A Path to Finding Your Soulmate

Overview: This article explores how the moon’s natural cycles and rhythms subtly affect our emotional states, intuition, and personal connections, guiding us toward meeting our soulmate - the person destined to complement our soul. 

🍀 How The Celestial Glow Influences Our Path to the One Meant for Us

By attuning ourselves to the moon’s phases and learning to sync our actions accordingly, we can harness this celestial rhythm as a powerful guide. Through understanding lunar phases and syncing our actions with them, we can open ourselves to deeper relationships, heightened intuition, and emotional clarity 

✨ Lunar rhythms can help you find your soulmate.

The Moon, Earth's natural satellite, influences more than just the tides - it affects human biorhythms, emotional states, and even... the deep connections between souls. It may sound poetic, but astrologers strongly believe that the Night Star plays a subtle role in how we meet and recognize our soulmate.

⚡ But what does the Moon have to do with soulmates? Have you ever felt more open to deep connections or emotional insights at certain times? Experienced sudden emotional revelations without any clear reason? The answer might be: the Moon’s phases.

🍀 What is a Lunar Month?

The lunar month (not to be confused with a calendar month) is the time from one New Moon to the next - about 29.5 days. It's divided into four main phases:

• New Moon - a time for new beginnings, introspection, and planning
• First Quarter (Waxing Moon) - time for action, initiative, and courage
• Full Moon - emotional intensity, revelations, destined meetings
• Last Quarter (Waning Moon) - release, reflection, and healing

🌕 How can you know what lunar day it is?

There are online lunar calendars or astrology apps that show the current “lunar day” (from 1 to 30). Each day carries specific energy, and aligning with that rhythm can support good decisions in love, karmic encounters, or spiritual insights.

🍀 What Can You Do to Attract Your Soulmate?

♥️ Clearly define your desire: Are you seeking a deep spiritual connection? A destined relationship? A partner who mirrors your essence?

✨ Visualize: Don’t just imagine the person—imagine the relationship. How do you feel together? What connects you? What meaning does it bring into your life?

🌿 Align: Use the energy of the Moon’s phases to your advantage. The New Moon is ideal for setting intentions, the First Quarter for conscious steps, and the Full Moon for soul recognitions.

🌊 Let go: After setting your intention, focus on other areas of your life. Let the energy attract what is meant for you.

🧭 Follow your intuition. It will tell you when and with whom it’s worth exploring a connection. Sometimes you’ll need to act, other times just to recognize a sign.

🍀 Magical Lunar Days for Meeting Your Soulmate

As promised, here’s a list of the most favorable lunar days for destined connections, emotional revelations, and steps toward a soul relationship—as well as the ones best avoided.

📅 Golden Days for Deep Connections:

● Lunar Day 1 – Day of clear dreams. What you wish for today has the power to manifest.

● Day 2 – Intuition is heightened. Watch for signs and new people.

● Day 6 – Emotional clarity. Something becomes evident in a connection.

● Day 11 – Strong desires, magnetism, spiritual energy. Powerful connections may arise.

● Day 17 – Perfect for karmic beginnings, engagements, sacred unions.

● Day 21 – Energy and courage to take conscious steps toward the one meant for you.

❌ More Delicate Days – Wrapped in Confusion or Tension:

9, 13, 15, 19, 23, 26 - Avoid starting important connections, impulsive decisions, or rushed actions.

📌 An Inspired Conclusion

The Celestial Glow doesn't dictate fate, but it can guide us through the subtle dance of emotions and fated encounters. Aligning with its energy might bring you closer to that deep connection you’re seeking: your soulmate - or maybe even your twin flame.

Have you ever paid attention to the Moon's phases when someone seemed to be sent into your life? Or when you saw a part of yourself reflected in another’s eyes?

✨ Share your experiences below. Perhaps The Night Star has already touched you… without you even knowing.

Cosmic Soulmate Meaning: More Than Love, It’s a Destiny

 What Is a Cosmic Soulmate? A connection that transforms your life

soulmate sketch

The term refers to a deep and spiritual bond between two souls - a powerful example of what is a soulmate connection at its highest level, one that transcends physical, mental, and even temporal boundaries. It’s not just about romance, but about a fated encounter that seems written in the stars. It’s a rare, intense, and enlightening connection that enters our lives to guide us, support us, and help us grow.

🌌 More Than Love: A Soul-Level Connection

A cosmic soulmate is not necessarily a life partner in the traditional sense. It can be a close friend, a mentor, a family member, or even someone who enters your life unexpectedly, yet leaves a profound impact. This relationship is built on a sense of instant recognition - as if you’re reconnecting with someone you’ve known in another lifetime.

This type of connection is characterized by:

• 🌟 Intuitive recognition: From the very first meeting, you feel like you’ve known them forever. It’s a deep sense of familiarity that’s hard to explain logically.
• 💬 Authentic emotional connection: Communication flows naturally and sincerely. There’s no need for masks, and no fear of judgment. You can be your full, unfiltered self.
• 🧘 Spiritual alignment: You share similar values, a comparable worldview, and perhaps even common spiritual practices or beliefs.
• 🌱 Mutual support and evolution: You motivate and inspire each other to grow, break through personal barriers, follow your dreams, and rediscover your true potential.
• 🔁 Meaningful synchronicities: Striking coincidences seem to bring you together again and again — as if the Universe is orchestrating your bond.

🔥 Cosmic Soulmate vs Twin Flame

The divine partner is often confused with the twin flame concept, but there are key differences.

A “twin flame” involves an intense and often tumultuous relationship where two halves of the same soul reunite to face challenges and deep healing together. It’s a relationship meant to shake you up and push you to grow through confrontation.

While a twin flame can be seen as a mirror of our own self, reflecting both the light and the shadows, a “kindred soirit” is that presence that gently supports us with understanding, guiding us toward growth and fulfillment. 

By contrast, as a kindred spirit, this connection brings more harmony. That doesn’t mean there are no lessons involved - but they come through support, not struggle. It’s a relationship that makes you feel safe and seen, encouraging you to explore who you truly are.

💫 How Do You Recognize a Cosmic Soulmate in Your Life?

If you’ve ever asked yourself what is a soulmate connection supposed to feel like, these signs may help you recognize whether you've met your divine partner.

In today’s digital world, many seekers turn to tools like the popular Soulmate Sketch - a trend where a psychic artist creates a portrait based on intuitive or energetic impressions. While intriguing, true recognition often happens through the subtle, emotional, and spiritual alignment you feel in someone’s presence.

• You feel a profound sense of “home” in their presence. Words aren’t always needed - your energies speak for themselves.
• Your conversations are deep and effortless, as if continuing a dialogue that began long ago.
• You have an intuitive understanding of each other’s thoughts, emotions, and needs without explanation.
• You support each other unconditionally on your paths of self-discovery and personal growth - without jealousy or competition.

Being around them makes you feel like you’re remembering who you really are.

🌱 Why Do Cosmic Soulmates Appear in Our Lives?

These people often show up during turning points - periods of transition, pain, or searching. They don’t come by chance. Their purpose is to remind you of who you are, to point you in the right direction when you feel lost, and to offer a safe space in which you can evolve.

Sometimes, these relationships aren’t meant to last forever in the physical sense. But their impact remains with you long after. They shift your energy, teach you the meaning of authentic connection, and bring you closer to your most aligned self.

🌀 Conclusion: A Journey Back to Your Essence

At its core, a kindred spirit is a soul mirror - someone with whom you embark on a journey of discovery, healing, and awakening. They see your soul, not just your face. And in their presence, life gains new depth - more awareness, more meaning, more life.

Perhaps you already have such a soul in your life. Perhaps you’re yet to meet them. Either way, stay open, stay present, and stay true to yourself. Because sometimes, real magic begins not when you keep searching… but when you simply recognize.

And while tools like a Soulmate Sketch might spark curiosity or hope, the deepest confirmation often comes from within - from the way your spirit responds when you truly feel seen.

Fear of the Worst Soulmate Ever: Navigating a Matchmaker's Proposal (II)

Building on the insights from our previous post, we now explore the next step in navigating the matchmaker’s proposal…

Finding Your Soulmate

4. Afraid of Accidentally Offending Them?

Did you roll your eyes when your date mentioned a pretentious film festival, only to realize they were trying to invite you? How do you get out of this mess? If you offend someone, the magic formula is simple: apologize. 

You can’t know everything about a person, and it’s easy to cross a line unintentionally. If you sincerely apologize, but your partner remains sensitive, then maybe it wasn’t meant to work out long-term. But if they appreciate your apology, you can move on to other, more interesting (and neutral) topics.

5. Do You Feel Like You’re a Terrible Conversationalist?

Do you feel like you’re a terrible conversationalist? Whether you're a tight-lipped person or someone who tends to be quiet, awkward silences on a first date can be a source of panic for some people. May be, you once met a man who barely spoke, and you ended up telling him my life story in great detail just because you couldn’t stand the silence. If you tend to talk when you’re stressed or fill awkward silences, remember that you don’t have to keep the conversation going on your own. Your date may have ideas on topics to discuss too. Stop, listen, or break the ice by saying, "I hate awkward silences, don’t you?" A good tactic for those who tend to shut up like an oyster? Always have one or two conversation topics up your sleeve, like: "What’s one activity you never get tired of?" or "What’s one thing you absolutely want to do before the end of the year?"

6. Worried About the Awkward Goodbye?

Do you worry that saying goodbye before dessert will be awkward - will we kiss? Shake hands? Hug? Suggest another date? The best solution is to let your instincts guide you. If you had fun, kindly let them know. If not, simply say, "Thank you." And if you’re not sure whether to kiss, give them a big smile, shake their hand, and prepare to say goodbye. This gives them the chance to decide without feeling embarrassed if they don’t want to kiss you. If the first date went well, you’ll probably see each other again, and the goodbyes will become easier and more pleasant. And this is a nice thought to keep in mind when you’re feeling too nervous.

Conclusion

If you meet the wrong person, it’s not the end of the world. Sometimes, the wrong path is just a lesson you need to reach where you’re meant to be. Life isn’t linear, and ‘wasted time’ is often a stepping stone for growth. Don’t be afraid to learn from your experiences, even if they don’t always lead you where you expected. Every step matters and brings you closer to what you truly deserve.

These tips perfectly align with the idea of building a relationship based on authenticity and mutual respect, without forcing anything. It's all about being yourself and letting things evolve naturally, without the fear of meeting a "worst soulmate ever." If you want to discover more helpful tips and information on how to find an authentic and meaningful relationship, check out the 'Finding Your Soulmate' guide and take an important step towards a real connection.

Fear of the Worst Soulmate Ever: Navigating a Matchmaker's Proposal (I)

fear of meeting someone

The idea of meeting someone through a matchmaking service can stir up deep fears of disappointment, rejection, or simply the fear of wasting your time. 

What if this turns out to be the worst soulmate ever manga scene - a scenario where everything seems perfect at first, but then it all unravels unexpectedly, just like in a manga where the storyline takes an unexpected twist? 

As you sit across from a complete stranger, it’s natural to feel a mix of excitement and anxiety. However, the fear of meeting someone new doesn’t have to paralyze you. Instead of letting your worries take over, let’s explore some of the most common uncertainties that arise on a first date, along with a few simple tips to help you turn this moment into a successful opportunity.

1. Do You Fear Not Being Their Type?

Are you afraid that the potential ideal partner won’t appreciate your appearance, style, career, personality, history, etc.? This line of thinking will only stress you out. Instead, look at things differently. The goal of an appointment is to decide whether you want to see the person again, not whether they like you. Simply behave as if they’ve already heard your story, not as if you’re on trial - because they are. This will help you relax and enjoy the present moment.

2. Worried About Embarrassing Yourself?

Are you scared of spilling coffee in your future partner’s lap, choking on a piece of food, tripping on the sidewalk, or having some other mortifying incident... and then suddenly your face will turn red, and the other person will think you’re an idiot? Think again. Even if such an incident happens, look on the bright side: revealing your weaknesses can actually make you more relatable to your potential partner. Those awkward first-date moments often become some of the fondest memories and the stories that couples happily repeat, like laughing at themselves or dipping the sleeve in béarnaise sauce. When you see that the other person is also uncomfortable, it creates a natural bond, and you find them more likable. So if something unexpected happens, just laugh (instead of getting scared or spending the rest of the night apologizing), and accept that now you’re both part of the “awkward date club.”

3. What if You Never See Them Again?

Before a date, you often worry about what to do if you don’t want to see the person again but they like you. You may say "I feel terrible about rejecting someone, and I get so nervous about it." Well, it’s fine to worry about them, but a candlelit dinner doesn’t mean you’re committing to a lifetime of happiness with many children. As the saying goes, you can’t make an omelet without breaking a few eggs. Try not to overthink it, and if necessary, politely tell the person you don’t feel a connection. You can simply say, "I don’t think we’re a good fit," or just say “no, thanks” when they invite you to another date. And if you think you’ve put them in an awkward spot, take a step back: rejecting someone shows respect for their time, and most adults are mature enough to take care of themselves.

To be continued... Discover more insights in the next section, as we explore how to turn first date nerves into meaningful connections.