Fear of the Worst Soulmate Ever: Navigating a Matchmaker's Proposal (II)

Building on the insights from our previous post, we now explore the next step in navigating the matchmaker’s proposal…

Finding Your Soulmate

4. Afraid of Accidentally Offending Them?

Did you roll your eyes when your date mentioned a pretentious film festival, only to realize they were trying to invite you? How do you get out of this mess? If you offend someone, the magic formula is simple: apologize. 

You can’t know everything about a person, and it’s easy to cross a line unintentionally. If you sincerely apologize, but your partner remains sensitive, then maybe it wasn’t meant to work out long-term. But if they appreciate your apology, you can move on to other, more interesting (and neutral) topics.

5. Do You Feel Like You’re a Terrible Conversationalist?

Do you feel like you’re a terrible conversationalist? Whether you're a tight-lipped person or someone who tends to be quiet, awkward silences on a first date can be a source of panic for some people. May be, you once met a man who barely spoke, and you ended up telling him my life story in great detail just because you couldn’t stand the silence. If you tend to talk when you’re stressed or fill awkward silences, remember that you don’t have to keep the conversation going on your own. Your date may have ideas on topics to discuss too. Stop, listen, or break the ice by saying, "I hate awkward silences, don’t you?" A good tactic for those who tend to shut up like an oyster? Always have one or two conversation topics up your sleeve, like: "What’s one activity you never get tired of?" or "What’s one thing you absolutely want to do before the end of the year?"

6. Worried About the Awkward Goodbye?

Do you worry that saying goodbye before dessert will be awkward - will we kiss? Shake hands? Hug? Suggest another date? The best solution is to let your instincts guide you. If you had fun, kindly let them know. If not, simply say, "Thank you." And if you’re not sure whether to kiss, give them a big smile, shake their hand, and prepare to say goodbye. This gives them the chance to decide without feeling embarrassed if they don’t want to kiss you. If the first date went well, you’ll probably see each other again, and the goodbyes will become easier and more pleasant. And this is a nice thought to keep in mind when you’re feeling too nervous.

Conclusion

If you meet the wrong person, it’s not the end of the world. Sometimes, the wrong path is just a lesson you need to reach where you’re meant to be. Life isn’t linear, and ‘wasted time’ is often a stepping stone for growth. Don’t be afraid to learn from your experiences, even if they don’t always lead you where you expected. Every step matters and brings you closer to what you truly deserve.

These tips perfectly align with the idea of building a relationship based on authenticity and mutual respect, without forcing anything. It's all about being yourself and letting things evolve naturally, without the fear of meeting a "worst soulmate ever." If you want to discover more helpful tips and information on how to find an authentic and meaningful relationship, check out the 'Finding Your Soulmate' guide and take an important step towards a real connection.

Fear of the Worst Soulmate Ever: Navigating a Matchmaker's Proposal (I)

fear of meeting someone

The idea of meeting someone through a matchmaking service can stir up deep fears of disappointment, rejection, or simply the fear of wasting your time. 

What if this turns out to be the worst soulmate ever manga scene - a scenario where everything seems perfect at first, but then it all unravels unexpectedly, just like in a manga where the storyline takes an unexpected twist? 

As you sit across from a complete stranger, it’s natural to feel a mix of excitement and anxiety. However, the fear of meeting someone new doesn’t have to paralyze you. Instead of letting your worries take over, let’s explore some of the most common uncertainties that arise on a first date, along with a few simple tips to help you turn this moment into a successful opportunity.

1. Do You Fear Not Being Their Type?

Are you afraid that the potential ideal partner won’t appreciate your appearance, style, career, personality, history, etc.? This line of thinking will only stress you out. Instead, look at things differently. The goal of an appointment is to decide whether you want to see the person again, not whether they like you. Simply behave as if they’ve already heard your story, not as if you’re on trial - because they are. This will help you relax and enjoy the present moment.

2. Worried About Embarrassing Yourself?

Are you scared of spilling coffee in your future partner’s lap, choking on a piece of food, tripping on the sidewalk, or having some other mortifying incident... and then suddenly your face will turn red, and the other person will think you’re an idiot? Think again. Even if such an incident happens, look on the bright side: revealing your weaknesses can actually make you more relatable to your potential partner. Those awkward first-date moments often become some of the fondest memories and the stories that couples happily repeat, like laughing at themselves or dipping the sleeve in béarnaise sauce. When you see that the other person is also uncomfortable, it creates a natural bond, and you find them more likable. So if something unexpected happens, just laugh (instead of getting scared or spending the rest of the night apologizing), and accept that now you’re both part of the “awkward date club.”

3. What if You Never See Them Again?

Before a date, you often worry about what to do if you don’t want to see the person again but they like you. You may say "I feel terrible about rejecting someone, and I get so nervous about it." Well, it’s fine to worry about them, but a candlelit dinner doesn’t mean you’re committing to a lifetime of happiness with many children. As the saying goes, you can’t make an omelet without breaking a few eggs. Try not to overthink it, and if necessary, politely tell the person you don’t feel a connection. You can simply say, "I don’t think we’re a good fit," or just say “no, thanks” when they invite you to another date. And if you think you’ve put them in an awkward spot, take a step back: rejecting someone shows respect for their time, and most adults are mature enough to take care of themselves.

To be continued... Discover more insights in the next section, as we explore how to turn first date nerves into meaningful connections.

Rules for Men to Impress a Woman

Overview: This article presents a set of tips for men who want to win the heart of the women they see as their soulmate.

Old-fashioned manners

Impressing the woman who is hard to impress may seem challenging, but it all starts with being authentic. If you want to truly stand out to a woman who is hard to impress, it’s essential to be genuine, confident, and true to yourself. Women like this appreciate a man who knows exactly who he is and isn’t afraid to show it.

A woman who is hard to impress values authenticity and strength; showing her your true self will make a lasting impact. By focusing on building trust and being sincere, you’ll naturally create a deeper connection.”

If you're a man who truly wants to make a meaningful connection and impressing the woman you see as your soulmate, here are fourteen important tips to help you stand out, build trust, and form a deep, lasting bond.

1. Be authentic and confident in yourself.

Self-confidence and authenticity are the most attractive qualities. Be yourself and don’t try to pretend to be another person.

2. Listen attentively and show her that she is a priority.

Women appreciate men who listen to them and give them their full attention during a conversation.

3. Keep your word and be someone trustworthy.

Honesty and reliability are fundamental in any relationship. Be a man of your word.

4. Be dedicated to your mission and goals.

Women are attracted to men who have a clear purpose and are motivated to follow their passions and careers.

5. Make a positive impression with your appearance, but avoid exaggeration.

Taking care of yourself is important, but don’t overdo it. Choose a fragrance and clothing that represent who you truly are.

6. Stay calm and rational, even in stressful moments.

A man who can keep his calm and reason during difficult situations is much more attractive than someone who gets overwhelmed by emotions.

7. Choose your words carefully and don’t speak too quickly.

Speak clearly, with confidence, but also with patience. Don’t rush the conversation—allow space for a natural dialogue.

8. Be generous with your attention, but don’t lose your mind trying to ‘save’ someone else.

Be there for others, but don’t sacrifice your emotional balance in the process.

9. Maintain strong and confident eye contact.

Eye contact is essential to show confidence and convey genuine interest.

10. Don’t act superior to your friends to impress women.

Be respectful and equal to everyone around you, without trying to place yourself in a position of superiority to someone impression.

11. Put your phone away when you’re spending time with other companion.

Distractions don’t belong when you’re spending quality time with someone important. Showing that you are focused on her is a sign of respect.

12. Embrace Timeless Manners.

Old-fashioned manners may be less common nowadays, but those small gestures of chivalry can make a lasting impression. Hold the door open for her, and always walk on the side of the sidewalk closest to the street. When descending stairs, lead the way; when ascending, stay behind her (just in case). Help her with her jacket at the beginning and end of the date, and always pull out her chair before she sits down.

13. Bring Her Flowers.

You might come across as a hopeless romantic, but it's important to acknowledge what a thoughtful and lovely gesture it is to buy a girl flowers.

14. Be funny and approachable.

Humor is a key element in any relationship. Be playful and don’t take yourself too seriously. You don’t need to be the most self-deprecating man in the world but just be willing to tell funny story

If you want to discover more helpful tips and information on impressing women, check out the ‘Find Your Soulmate’ guide and take an important step towards an authentic and meaningful relationship