Advice if you can't find your soul mate(I) - Like fast fashion

If you are single, and even more so after 30 years, you have probably asked yourself the question: will I, one day, find a soul mate? Will I finally discover the 'rare pearl'? 

These intimate questions are asked by millions of men and women around the world. But then, how can you find the right shoe for you? We try to answer it

The ambivalence of being single in the long term

You may have noticed people around you who are wonderful and yet are always alone. You sometimes have difficulty understanding why he or she cannot find the right match for them. There is sometimes an ambivalence You will have to know if, in fact, your single friend, in any case who remains alone, is not ambivalent about what he wants Because after a certain time, we realize that. some may ultimately relish the benefits of being alone Even though there are obviously also downsides to not being with someone and upsides to being with someone So this ambivalence must be what you're looking for. soul mate, and thinking that if you can't find it, it's not for you.

Make a list of your current priorities, already to know what they are. It's perhaps not at all, moreover, about finding someone, finding a soul mate, forming a couple. So when you're going to make this list, you're also going to put something important next to it.

Maybe today I actually want to devote myself to my work. Let's say that in the next three years, I will focus on this. Why not ? 

There may be a list like this which will allow us to clarify. It lets you know that ultimately, there is no desire on your part at all to be in a relationship. Maybe you'll meet your soul mate, as they say, but at the same time, you have other priorities.

Finding a partner is like "doing job interviews"

Finding a partner is a bit difficult. Sometime is like we are still in a process where we will try to find if we can do business with someone for life and for things perhaps even more serious than work. But in any case, we are still in this process, so really consider your feelings. And you can even do what's called the time travel test.

This means that you sit down and imagine yourself, for example, with a person you have met. Well, I guess you're letting yourself think about old stories a bit, aren't you? You met someone, you close your eyes and you say to yourself: 'I imagine spending my life with you.' You let yourself soak in that a little bit, and you pay attention to the feelings, to the impression it makes on you. 

(to be continued)