How to Make Others Love You? (III)

This post is a continuation of a previous entry

OVERVIEW: In this final part, we discover the power of active listening, empathy, and how not to get frustrated when you can’t please everyone.

active listening

Active listening is the moment when you not only hear what your partner is saying, but also attune to their thoughts and feelings. This kind of approach turns a conversation into an active, non-competitive, two-way interaction. Active listening encompasses a range of other abilities – from understanding subtle signals to managing your emotional responses. It demands both empathy and self-awareness.

5 – Listen to Others to Make Them Like You

Just like you love to be listened to and understood, other people also enjoy that.

That’s why, to make others like you, it’s important to be attentive to them and show empathy and gratitude as well.

That is, hear their feelings and emotions. Let other people express themselves. This doesn’t mean you should adopt the role of a savior. You’re not there to save other induviduals.

Listening means creating a space where the other feels heard and welcomed. The other person is not looking for solutions to their problems, but for attentive and compassionate listening.

Also, showing gratitude means thanking others when they listen to us, when they take time to see us. Knowing how to thanking others is essential to being liked.

6 – Don’t Overthink It, Don’t Try to Be Liked by Everyone

To be liked by loved ones, it’s important to know not to overthink it. The problem is that, in trying to be liked by loved ones, we can fall into the trap of wanting to be liked by everyone.

However, you won’t be liked by everyone—clearly, not. In fact, you will only truly be appreciated by a small minority. So what?

Do you need 100 contacts or 2-3 authentic relationships?

So, don’t overthink it. Open yourself to people, try to make a connection, and if it’s not working, move on to someone else.

Indeed, we waste too much time and energy trying to force relationships that aren’t working.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying to break off every relationship that has a few glitches. No relationship is perfect.

But I know you’ll be able to tell the difference between someone who doesn’t care about your relationship and someone who makes mistakes but values the interconnection.

Conclusion

A healthy relationship is more of a partnership, not power play. This involves finding an appropriate balance in giving and taking, independence, and togetherness between compromise and standing firm on what one believes is right. In that way, it creates harmony and mutual respect. Not all relationships are destined to last a lifetime, but every relationship, whether romantic, familial, or platonic, teaches us something. They show us our strengths, expose our vulnerabilities, and push us to grow in ways we might not have expected.

By consequence, someone who truly loves and support you is not just a partner, but a deep connection that grows with trust, mutual understanding, and shared emotions. Then finding your soulmate, you will discover a love that goes beyond mere words - a bond that lasts forever