Common attitudes of couples that last (IV)

common attitodes of lasting relationship

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2 - TWO IS BETTER

Being in a relationship also means building. A future, as we said above. But also our own person. Since maintaining a relationship is above all about growing. Learn to listen. To express yourself. To know yourself. To create common attitudes of couples

Questioning yourself sometimes means venturing into troubled waters that have never been explored before. “We must have the ability to manage conflicts and manage our differences,” explains some psychologists. Know how to ask yourself where the problem comes from. Sometimes admit to yourself that it comes from us and ALWAYS put your pride aside to finally rectify the situation.

Maintaining relationship not easy, is it? Even more so when we are not really used to playing our cards on the table with our feelings. Now it's completely the opposite: we're getting naked. 

You have to know how to name your emotions and understand that emotions as a couple are different for everyone. We don't keep any pain, anger or frustration to ourselves. The slightest repressed feeling can, even later, end up causing harm to our lasting relationship.

3 - A LONG-TERM PROJECT

Once you understand that, it's not bad. But yet, everything is still far from won. Living with someone is finally - and above all - a long-term job. "You have to work on your lasting relationship. The word work is not a bad word. It's a project to be pampered. Your relationship will be lasting if you choose to dedicate time and attention to it. 

You have to agree to always put one step in front of the other in order to make your lasting relationship a common project. Every day is a new experience or challenge. We must never let our guard down, nor take our eyes off our primary objective: to make people happy is to be happy with the person with whom we share our daily lives.

We therefore don't stop at a single concession or discussion... Life together as a maintaining relationship is a succession of common attitudes of couples, concessions and discussions. At what price ? That of having a teammate to experience any adventure, and overcome any obstacle. That of our well-being and the person in front of us. That of a couple who resists everything, even time. And that… It’s clearly priceless to find the right common attitudes of couples.